And you debate trying to be a basketball fanatic you even join a fantasy basketball leagueĤ.
Then it's the middle of December and you start having withdrawalsģ. You should never be someone's second choice.Īnd you're upset about that and that baseball is over for a few months. No matter what option you choose, remember that you are a person with value. If you are being impacted in such a negative way by this, I suggest trying to find a solution by hanging out with your friends individually or seeking out newer friendships. Personally, I would not address this feeling to my friends because of how petty it seems-"you need to include me more" is a very touchy subject for the majority of humanity-but sometimes a person does need to make a change. Now, I highly doubt anyone intentionally tries to make their friend feel like a third-wheel, but if these signs appear anywhere in your friendships, maybe you should make a change. If you have more than one friend with you but you are completely disregarding one of them, you are creating a third-wheel friend who learns that their words do not matter. Sometimes, ignoring people is the easiest thing to do, but not when you are actually having a conversation. I utter a line multiple times but have it fall on deaf ears or sometimes am graced with a malevolent glare. There have been countless times when I have been with friends and we are having a conversation that they have completely left me out of. But when friends are together and completely ignoring something someone is saying in a conversation, you feel as though you are not valued. Interrupting a conversation is so obnoxious and we tend to ignore people who interrupt. Reading a text in a group chat where your friends confirmed plans to go do something without the initial invitation or an invitation in that moment makes you feel like a third-wheel friend. Having people make plans in front of you or mentioning plans that everyone except you is invited to can hurt. But if you and all of your friends are making plans together and excluding one single friend, it can hurt. Obviously, you do not have to invite every single friend you have to every single thing you do.